This past week a woman in the US was texting and walking and fell into a fountain. The action was caught on video that than went viral http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bGpVpsaItpU . Most people would be able to laugh at themselves but not this lady. She has decided to sue the security company that handles the mall because it is allegedly their video. C'mon lady. It was your own stupidity that made you fall in that fountain and look the fool. Take responsibility for your actions. Must people get money for everything?
This reminds of the idiots who try to sue casinos because they spent all their money. Anyone credible who is in recovery and/or works in the addictions field knows that part of getting over your addictions is taking responsibility for your own actions. Trying to sue and blame someone else for your disease is just taking you further into your addiction. It let's you say, "it's not my fault it's someone elses." As a recovered alcoholic/addict I have taken responsiblity for my actions. I used to drink and blame others for my drinking - my boss sucks so I'm going to drink; if she didn't do this I wouldn't have to drink; if that cop hadn't busted me for drinking and driving I wouldn't have to drink. Give me a break. By suing the casinos it is furthering a sick person's rationalization. When you take the "me" out of blaME all you have left is a lot of "bla" "bla" "bla". I recently heard a local radio talkshow host who has his own recovery business and a show about addiction say he tells his gambling clients to sue casinos. This really irks me. That only feeds into the addicts feeling of terminal uniqueness. People who do this "can't differenitate the truth from the false" (AA Big Book).
The current waiting list for subsidized day care in Toronto is 15, 500. Do people not think about finances when they have children. Maybe they should stop buying the X-Boxes and big screen television sets and pay some money for day care. Plus I thought the McGuinty govenrnment already solved this problem by bringing in it's own free day care called all day kindergarten.
That takes us to the homeless. Toronto has more people hired to help the homeless than there are homeless people in the city. I heard them begging for more money today on the radio. How about the city cut some of those bureaucratic jobs and use that money to help the homeless. If a homeless person doesn't want to go into a shelter I say that's their right. That is also their decision so don't be giving my tax money to them. We all have decisions to make in this life. If I choose to freeze to death outside rather than taking free shelter - so be it. That's my decision. If the pinko liberals of the nation would let us lock people up for their own good than maybe they'd stop whining.
People today need to take responsiblity for their own choices in life. If make a bad decision (and I've made many) I don't sue anyone or blame anyone I take responsiblilty for the choice I made.
Dave the Dude
Curious..how does one take responsibility for daycare if quite simply they can not afford it. You know I have a good job. A pretty damn good job. Benefits etc. Daycare for one child is 40$ daily. Great. If my husband was not able to watch the child I'd be left with the 200$ a week bill. x2 by two ;)
ReplyDeleteNow recognizing that we are able to live the life we need to because of our circumstances: I work he watches the kids. What if my husband suddenly died? Not a smoker, drinker, not in a car but say he got hit by a lightening bolt...nooone to sue. I'd have to put them in day care, not subsidized at 400$ a week. Do the math on your own salary. I pay insanely cheap rent because I've got karma of gold and I don't own a car. We're minimalists so we don't have the stuff people usually buy etc. We don't eat meat, drink, smoke etc.
I guess where in my translation, I wonder...if we're using principle..or Principle, if you get my drift....how DOES one take responsiblity. What does that responsibility look like?
I'm using myself as an example simply because "I would not talk so much about myself if there were anybody else whom I knew as well..."-Henry David Thoreau
My example can translate many ways. I guess if I am examining Principle/principle. To take responsiblity is not to whine but to live. To accept the systems available to me. To work hard with the gifts I am provided and to advocate in the use of systems that do work. To take responsibility thru others. i.e. makign amends. If you cant make amends with the direct person etc., you make amends with a surrogate yah?
So I guess maybe in my exploration of this topic I am questioning...how do we take responsiblity....but lowering our expectations?
Expectation....
Predetermined disappointment.
Is it that you feel we expect too much of our systems? Or government to support us? If thats it...I get it.
We shouldn't expect that life be subsidized for us. We must live within our own means.
Though, in my pandering, I would then get caught up in the exploration of emotional, mental, physicial, intellectual means. Some are stacked higher then others etc.
Thoughts in exploring the not so clear line of 'how do we take resposibility'....????
OOps typo...
ReplyDelete"but lowering our expectations?"
should read 'by lowering expectation' ('by' and not plural)